Multiple orgasm: how to achieve it in 6 steps

A man and a woman are having sex toy shop. He above, she below, he sinks, she moans. She screams, re-screams, re-screams. Within a minute he comes and she too, together, at the same time, the orgasm is evident, spectacular, satisfying, almost certainly they will have others. Does she seem to have seen this scene before? That's right, in the movies. The reality is a bit different, and not because women are unable to have multiple orgasms , but because it is very unlikely that this happens due to penetration and that they are more frequent the more he pushes.

Who said multiple orgasm?

The first document that reports the existence of multiple orgasm dates back to the 30s, but it is only in the 60s, with the superstar sexologists Masters and Johnson, that we arrive at some statistics: 15% of women had them. . A correct analysis of what happens in the brain during female orgasm was only possible with the advent of diagnostic tools such as MRI and EEG scanners, before then, that is at least until 1991, surveys on female patients were followed. .

What happens to the body when you have an orgasm?

Over 30 areas of the brain, including those that govern emotions and joy, release oxytocin, the chemical that regulates "bonding". The muscles tense, the heartbeat accelerates, the blood flows to the genital area , the body is shaken by a feeling of liberation and pleasure. At this point men and women diverge: first of all men come 95% of the time while women 65% (lesbians, on the other hand, 86%).

And to the brain?

Immediately after orgasm, the man enters a " refractory period ", in which he will not be able to respond to any stimulation, while a woman, unless she has fake it, first stabilizes and then, after 2 -3 minutes, he is already able to reach another one. All this as long as the environment, the partner and the knowledge of one's body help (this aspect should not be underestimated since according to Vincenzo Puppo, a sexologist from Florence, women refer to their vagina as a "hole" " ).The documentary "Super-orgasm" revealed that women who have multiple orgasms have slower alpha waves in their brains than the average woman. In short, their brains are quieter and offer more space for pleasure.So what does the fact that a woman can have a series of multiple orgasms depend on? Is it an anatomical, psychological or purely technical question? If the first is to be excluded, let's instead enter into the merits of the other two. Because yes, multiple orgasm can be learned .

How to achieve multiple orgasm

Kim Anami, an internationally renowned sex coach, creator of vaginal kung fu , among other things , has written extensively about orgasm as an active practice. And she suggests us a real "learning" path to train us to have at least two in a row.

Check your emotions

According to Anami: “Building arousal and experiencing multiple orgasms at once is a matter of physical technique, but also of mental attitude . The deepest orgasms are reached with a very intense state of release: it is very important to abandon yourself and let yourself go ". If you are used to being in control of everything, work on your ability to "let go" .

Slows

Male stamina is key to giving the woman plenty of time to have one or more orgasms. The first can arrive even after a few minutes with clitoral stimulation, the second during vaginal penetration, the third again with clitoral stimulation combined with penetration, etc. Obviously, all this can take up to 30-40 minutes. And if he's rushed, maybe it's time to slow him down with a vibrating ring .

Enjoy your moment

Do not be afraid of being too selfish or that he will get bored: for a man it is very exciting to see you come several times, also because he always thinks that it is his thanks. Allow yourself the pleasure of being the undisputed protagonist of the sexual experience , let yourself be watched, touched, massaged, for as long as you want. Concerns like "I'm taking too long" or "maybe it's his turn now" are the worst way to have one or more orgasms.

Turn him into a wizard

“For most women, their partner's hands and mouth are the best tools for orgasm, so it's very important that they know how to use them,” says Chris Rose, sex machine at PleasureMechanics.com. Show him exactly how and where you like to be touched by taking his hand or masturbating in front of him . “Many like the combination of cunnilingus + two fingers inside because it activates both the external clitoris and its internal roots”.

Take a deep breath

After your first orgasm, take a moment to enjoy the afterglow , the so-called “post-sex glow”, the seconds of releasing tension and oxytocin right after the climax where you feel happy and fulfilled. "When people get aroused, they tend to hold their breath or breathe really badly , " says Anami. this is repeated ”.

Stay connected

Beyond changing position, repeating the clitoral stimulation several times and in a different way (with the fingers, with the tongue, during penetration, first being underneath, then above, etc.), letting go and taking a deep breath, another an essential element is to strive to stay connected. " Maintaining eye contact with your partner is tiring because it leads you to be more vulnerable and open, but it is also the key to experiencing deep orgasmic experiences”, Anami explains. The difficulty lies in passing from the first orgasm to the second, once reached which the road is all downhill. Because if after the first you have not given up but have moved on, the second, the third and maybe even the fourth will come by itself. If it doesn't come to you, that's normal, it takes practice. And in the meantime, you can continue to have fun together.